My mom, J. Clair Woodbury, would always say, “Keep a Song in Your Heart and a Smile on Your Face”. Momma was so much fun. We would sit together on the front porch of our Nashville home, and after a while we would just start laughing and laughing. Daddy would come in and join us and then he would also start laughing as we created quite a ruckus of excitement.

A way to keep that song going is to avoid talking badly about others. “If you don’t have something good to say about someone, don’t say anything at all”. Good advice, wouldn’t you agree? Fill your speech with words of praise, hospitality, and encouragement to others.  It makes life easy and creates lasting friendships.

Am I perfect with this? Let’s see. Recently, I was faced with the option of speaking out of turn to “get something off my chest”. I grew tired and irritable from thinking about it and from the desire to “let someone else just have it”. Then, I had a turning point. My good neighbor of 23 years, Reeva, passed away. I just happened to be cleaning out my storage room at the exact time a crew was hauling away her things after the estate sale. A group of strangers were just hauling her possessions away as the property manager stood by. Sad.

This brings to home what really matters in life. Does “getting our own way” make us happy? Is fulfilling our every whim the formula for creating moral fiber and character? I then proceeded to finish loading up my car for my give-a-way as I de-cluttered my life.  I became aware that giving to others was truly fulfilling in my life. Also, as Reeva’s things were unceremoniously packed away in a truck, I realized that the things I own could never compare to who I am on the inside.  Then, the little song in my heart began to sing and I was happy inside.

To the last point, if we don’t have something good to say about someone, then say nothing at all. I do not wish anything bad on others. What if the bad thing happened to them? What if I could make someone else unhappy and “pay” for what they did to me? Would that create a memory of a lifetime that I would want others to remember me by? A memory I would cherish years down the line?

I want to be remembered as someone who always wanted the best for others. Someone who was willing to help those around me be the best they could be in their own lives.  I want to be a beacon to guide others to a lighted path to their success.

What was that?  Hey, I think I just heard a little tune humming in your mind.  Could that be the song in your heart that you’ll be singing today?

Next week: If you can visualize it, you can make it happen!

Sincerely,

David Earl Woodbury

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Nowadays, social media is a way of life and a way of interacting in a community. Online communities provide a sense of identity, belonging, and opportunities that don’t exist in traditional communities the way they once did.

Personally speaking, I find it easier to find like-minded colleagues online than in my own neighborhood. Here, I am one of a minority group of dance artists that may or may not share the same expectations, aesthetics, approaches, and standards. However, communicating online has led to relationships, brainstorming networks, and opportunities that have benefited my work in my actual community.

Why shouldn’t it be the same for kids?

Developing a community of dancers within any classroom depends on multiple dynamics and sometimes thinking outside the room can nurture relationships inside.

Facebook, Twitter, and fan sites can spur students to follow and interact with their favorite dance artists in ways they may never have a physical opportunity to do. Tracking the commentary and posts of these same artists can lead to a developed sense of trust in the teachings you offer in the classroom. It also opens the door for you to discuss modes of communication, etiquette, and networking.

I always appreciate when a guest artist shares the same information I do but in a new way. With tools like Facebook and Twitter, now the reinforcement of my “truth” can come when I need it and not just when I have someone in house.

In the classroom:

As the instructor, establish a professional account for Facebook or Twitter, and use this account to interact with artists on behalf of the class. In this way, you could follow artists whose work is relevant to your class studies. As the responsible adult, you may contact this artist and inquire if they would be willing to set some time aside to “talk” to your class in an interview type format. This could be done in a real-time chat or in an email exchange.
What to do:

• Survey the class for questions ahead of time.
• Discuss which questions would be important for basic information and which might the artist be excited to answer.
• Create a final list of inquiries.
• Invite students to pose potential answers based on research they conduct on the artist.
• Conduct the interview.
• Compare what they expected to learn to what they actually learned about this artist.

On their own:

Thinking of kids exploring the internet unsupervised is, well, scary but there are distinct benefits.  Students can start to interact with other dance enthusiasts, including some their own age. Soon they will establish their own group of dance colleagues that can offer support in ways their actual friends may not.
Consider the following in keeping kids safe and engaged:

• Explain to your students the etiquette and risks of interacting online and emphasize that an agreement should be reached with their parents before starting this line of activity on their own time. Parents can help monitor conversations to assure not only appropriate communication, but also thoughtful and productive questioning.

• Discuss the appropriate way to get an adult’s attention in real life and how it relates to online engagement.

• Emphasize mannered lines of discourse- using please and thank you, a respectful tone, and knowing when enough is enough.

Establishing Boundaries:

Just as we want students to demonstrate appropriate behavior, it is important to remember that adults need to do the same. Sometimes we can get so involved with our students that the lines between personal and professional lives can start to blur.

Remember your role. You are a teacher, a role model, and a source of information.

Just as it is important for the conversations you and your students to have with artists be professional, the same goes for you and your students. Ethically, it is important to draw clear boundaries between personal and professional relationships.

• Online this means not “friending” or “following” from personal accounts for students, and maybe even their families.

• Even from your professional pages or accounts, keep the posts content driven. Keep your comments informational and away from personal opinions that could offend or be misinterpreted.

• Be cautious of online relationships with colleagues. They may not share the same ethical standards on social media boundaries and this can confuse the lines you have established with students and their families.

Redirecting

In an age where bullying can reach beyond demanding lunch money and name-calling, teaching to positively participate in varying modes of communication must also be addressed. In many instances, the dynamics of the relationships with friends, frenemies, and others at school does not remain on school premises and is greatly fed by online communication after school hours.

One reaction is to discourage kids from engaging in social media but another would be to use it to reach beyond their current circle, hence finding other kids with similar interests, situations, and goals.

When introducing your students to the positive sides of online involvement, address the negative sides too.

How do you expand the bubble?

© Heather Vaughan-Southard for Dance Advantage, 2012. |
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